When my husband pulled the same move I always do, I completely lost it

My husband and I have been fighting more lately. After we got married, I discovered he has completely different ideas about how a household should run. We never lived together before the wedding — I was with my mom, he was with his parents and younger brother. Looking back, maybe that was a red flag we both missed.

Here's the thing about my family situation: it's just me and Mom. My father? Let's just say the "father" line on my birth certificate has a big old dash through it. Immaculate conception, I guess. So Mom is literally all I have, and I'm all she has.

But my husband? He seems to think I should handle every single household chore by myself. We both work full-time jobs. Sure, he makes more than me, but I still leave the house at 7 AM and don't get back until 6 PM. According to his logic, since I'm not doing manual labor at my office job, I'm not really tired.

I cook. I clean. I do everything.

After a few months of this, I finally asked when he planned on pitching in. You should have seen his face — genuinely shocked. His argument? "It's a one-bedroom apartment. One person can handle it."

We fought. I got upset. And I did what I always do — I left and went to Mom's place.

See, that's just how I am. When we argue, I can't stand to be around him. I'm terrified I'll say something I can't take back. He's the opposite — he wants to talk it out immediately, keeps pushing for conversation while I'm sitting there in silence. So I've learned: the best thing I can do is leave, cool off, and come back with a clear head.

I stayed at Mom's overnight, came home the next day, and we actually managed to work things out. Progress, right?

Wrong. Apparently my husband was furious that my mom had called him while I was there. She was just trying to help! She asked him to be more understanding, to help with cooking and cleaning, to stop fighting with me. What's so terrible about that? She was trying to play peacemaker!

But he went off about how "unacceptable" it was to involve parents in our marriage. Said he already has enough people in his life trying to tell him what to do without his mother-in-law jumping in.

What was I supposed to do? I showed up at her door late at night, clearly upset. Was I supposed to just sit there in silence and give her a heart attack from worry? Of course I told her what happened. And yes, I tell her a lot about our life together. Who else am I supposed to talk to? She's older, more experienced. Maybe she has wisdom I don't have yet.

Anyway, we made up. And for almost two months, things were actually good. He started helping with cleaning. We even cooked together a few times — him peeling vegetables, me at the stove. It was nice. Usually the only time he "participated" in meal prep was when I called him to the table.

Then, two days ago, everything fell apart again.

Neither of us took out the trash that day. I rushed out in the morning and forgot. And him? Oh, he's on "privileged status" — taking out garbage is apparently beneath him. The problem? There were fish scraps in that bag.

He got home before me. The heat was blasting, all windows closed because it's freezing outside, and the apartment smelled like something died. Which, technically, it had.

We fought. And suddenly, it wasn't just about the fish. He piled on everything — I don't try hard enough, my cooking is mediocre, I'm too lazy to clean properly, and I don't spend every waking moment grateful for the privilege of being his wife.

So I left. Went to Mom's again.

The next day after work, I came home to find some of his stuff gone. I called him, panicking, asking what was going on.

His response? "I went to my mama too."

Then he hung up.

I'm sorry, WHAT?

Look, it's completely normal for a woman to be close to her mother. Girls are naturally more attached to their moms — everyone knows that. But a grown man running home to mommy after a fight with his wife? That's just pathetic. That's ridiculous. That's...

That's different.